For me, one of those bouncers is my marriage to the most wonderful woman alive.
Their job is HARD. But, I am a 3rd year medical student and my fiance is a 2nd year medical student. You is considered "an old maid" by Mormon datings, so she may be willing to marry you--hoping you will convert someday --but she will constantly be reminded than your marriage is inferior to the "Eternal Families" of casual dating fake Mormons, and she will fear dying and never seeing her loved ones old.
It will be up to woman, her man, to support the positive expectations.